Blessing someone simply means bringing goodness into their life.
Yet often the moment we start to contemplate acts of kindness the mind quickly objects.
You don’t have the money. You are too shy. You’ll never get around to it.
And that’s usually when those blessings stay on the shelf, never to be used.
The good news is we can still be a blessing to others even if these objections are true.
This is because the greatest, most powerful blessings don’t come when we start from a place of perfection. They come when we, at our most vulnerable, commit to transforming other’s lives anyway.
Weakness: I never have the right words.
Bless with listening: You don’t need to say anything at all to bless someone. Just turn up and listen. Your presence is enough.
Bless with well-wishes: Even adults need to feel special one day of the year. Don’t leave a Facebook comment on someone’s birthday. Go the extra mile and call. The only words you need to know are, “Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear ____, happy birthday to you!”
Bless with touch: Those who lack physical affection are scientifically proven to be more likely to suffer from sickness, loneliness, depression and stress. All you need to say is, “Do you need a hug?”.
Bless with your talents: Your creative expression has the power to inspire, comfort, amuse or convict. Let your works speak for you.
Weakness: I don’t have money to give.
Bless with speech: Thoughtfully, consider the truthful words of affirmation you’d like to impart, making sure to take your loved one’s needs into consideration. Speak that blessing at the next opportunity you get – preferably face-to-face but over the phone is OK too. You don’t need a pretext, just start with, “You’ve been on my mind lately, and I’ve gotta say…”
Bless with acknowledgement: Pen a small note or write a text message that recognises a person’s efforts in a particular area of their life. Empathetic validation is powerful.
Bless with assistance: Look for practical ways to lighten the load. Share your food. Do the dishes. Proofread an assignment or resume. Babysit. Run an errand. Simple acts are important.
Bless with humour: Believe it or not, tagging your mate in a meme is a blessing. Apart from making them laugh (hopefully) it shows you’re thinking of them and you want to make them smile.
Weakness: I don’t have time to help other people.
Bless with encouragement: Busy people usually encounter many other humans in their day-to-day lives. Make a habit of issuing genuine compliments to a few people every day.
Bless with prayer & intention: Make a habit of manifesting goodness into the lives of your loved ones whenever they pop into your head. Create a unique mantra for each person you’ve been meaning to bless and issue it the moment they cross your mind.
Weakness: I have no happiness or energy to give.
Bless with need: Sometimes when we are at our lowest, reaching out to others for assistance actually helps them to feel useful, important and wanted.
Bless a child or animal: You never have to worry about bringing their mood down. Your attention is a blessing to that child or creature, no matter how wretched you feel.
Bless with your body: Register for organ donation. It takes ten minutes, costs you nothing, and will probably save someone’s life on day.
Bless with honesty: Blessings don’t always feel warm and fuzzy. Sometimes the biggest blessing you can give is graciously delivered honesty. Is it time you told the truth to someone?
Bless with forgiveness: Bless yourself and others by practicing forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning their behaviour, it simply means that you’re going to give up your right to get even so that you can move forward and feel free.
A blessing for you
Whenever I think of the blessing I’d like to give a stranger, the lyrics to Bob Dylan’s “Forever Young” comes to mind.
As you read this, know these words are for YOU:
May God’s bless and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
May you stay forever young
May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young
May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
And may you stay
May you stay forever young.